A while ago myself & 2 of my girlfriends decided to each start a blog (this was largely influenced by the amount of Cherry Healey blog-reading we'd been doing at the time)
I chose to write my blog about something that had been on my mind for a while.
As a christian 20-something girl (25 as of 05.01.12. omg!), I find that there can often be a lot of expectations put on me to be in a relationship and to be married by a certain age (25's pushing it!). This isn't something that I find in my home church, where I have 2 other bessies in the same boat as me. It's more when I venture out into other Christian environments that I'm met with a "so, do you have a boyfriend?", which is then followed by a look of surprise & then pity when I reply that I don't.
This gets to me so much! I am completely confident in who I am and don't find being single at 25 an issue, but I wasn't always this confident and I know a lot of younger girls who still aren't and who struggle with being single. I think dating, as a Christian, is harder in that you can't just go out & meet guys as one would normally do. I've battled a lot with whether it's a good or really bad idea to date someone who isn't a Christian and came to the conclusion that if you are comfortable being unable to share that part of your life with someone, then go ahead. For me, God is such a huge part of my life that I just could not be in a relationship with someone who doesn't get it & who doesn't share the same passion.
As much as I am looking forward to falling in love and getting married, I think that not enough emphasis is put on the value of learning who you are and falling in love with God and having a relationship with Him before getting involved with anyone else.
This gets to me so much! I am completely confident in who I am and don't find being single at 25 an issue, but I wasn't always this confident and I know a lot of younger girls who still aren't and who struggle with being single. I think dating, as a Christian, is harder in that you can't just go out & meet guys as one would normally do. I've battled a lot with whether it's a good or really bad idea to date someone who isn't a Christian and came to the conclusion that if you are comfortable being unable to share that part of your life with someone, then go ahead. For me, God is such a huge part of my life that I just could not be in a relationship with someone who doesn't get it & who doesn't share the same passion.
As much as I am looking forward to falling in love and getting married, I think that not enough emphasis is put on the value of learning who you are and falling in love with God and having a relationship with Him before getting involved with anyone else.
I am so glad I didn't get into a relationship when I was younger, when I wanted so badly to be in one! I am such a different person now, I have discovered so much more about myself and who I am. I would have ended up with someone very wrong for me.
I wanted to write about how there is so much more to life & self-discovery -- being single for a while can be a really good thing.
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