Intro!

I have seen too many single girls moping around, whining about their impending eternal doom as a spinster.
Yes, I do want to fall in love. I want to meet a man who I will want to spend the rest of my life with, share everything with, have a family with. Of course I want all that. But you know what? It’s not the be all and end all of everything. I also need to accept that if God does decide to bless me with this amazing man, I might be in for a wait. And I say ‘amazing man’ because, believe me, I am not going to sign up to spending my life with any Tom, Dick or Harry. If he’s going to be leaving his pubes in the shower and skid marks on the toilet seat, constantly being there, talking to me, making decisions with me, being the person I sacrifice my own wants and needs for, then he is going to have to be pretty darn special. I am not being unrealistic, I know that no one is perfect and each person will have their own annoying or gross habits, but I have met guys who, without meaning to sound harsh, I would much rather stay single than live with them for the rest of my life.

But this blog is not about finding Mr Right, and it’s not about moaning about being single. I refuse to be one of these girls who spend their time dreaming about some non-existent man, moping about and wasting their lives on someone who, if he eventually DID turn up on their doorstep, would take one look at their sorry faces and run a mile.

This is about breaking free from the mindset we’ve been brought up on. The mindset that every single Disney movie -and most other movies- have put us in from day 1. That until we meet our Prince, life is on standby. That nothing can begin until this happens is RUBBISH!
As is the belief that once we DO meet our Prince, everything else will fall into place and we’ll live happily ever after.
One of my best friends once said to me; “I enjoy staring and dreaming of dreamy men […]!!! Without that where would sleeping beauty be?”
But shouldn't we be doing more than just dreaming our lives away?

What if we woke up & realised that, yes, love is great and we all want it to happen to us, but it should not be our ultimate goal. We’ve got to grab life by the balls and live it to the full (John 10:10).
What if we took all this energy we’re so often spending on dreaming up our dream man, imagining scenarios where he sweeps us off our feet, praying and praying that ‘someday soon our prince will come‘, and channelled it into something a lot more worthy of our time and effort?
I’m not saying I have it sussed. I’m definitely not saying that I do not do any of the above. But I’m sick of falling into this trap. I know that for example, pursuing God and being desperate about learning his character, developing a much deeper and more significant relationship with him, are things that are not only are more worthy of my time but are also things that are greatly important in my life. If I spent half as much time with God as I have done staring out the window planning how my wedding to this perfect man will be, I would have a seriously good thing going on!

So -whether you’re single or not- if you’re up for becoming an independent woman who can throw her hands up at me (or Beyoncé), then do join me as I embark on this truthful journey of discovery. Where I’ll be kicking the female gender up the backside and challenging you to switch off standby mode...